She Publicly Shamed Everyone Who Sleeps Around. Her Friend Privately Reminded Her She Did Too. Now There’s a Full-Blown Meltdown.
When your friend rewrites her entire history to impress a new man and then has the audacity to get mad when you quietly point out the plot holes, you know the drama is about to be absolutely unhinged.
THE STORY
Let me set the scene for you because this one is genuinely chef’s kiss levels of audacity.
Our storyteller has a friend. This friend recently started dating a new guy who is, shall we say, deeply conservative. And look, people evolve. People grow. People change their minds about things. That is a beautiful part of being human. But what happened next was not growth. It was a full personality transplant performed at lightning speed with zero anesthesia.
Almost overnight, this friend went from living her life freely to suddenly adopting every conservative talking point she could get her hands on. Purity culture became her new religion. Innocence became her brand. And she decided to take this rebranding campaign public.
She hopped on social media and posted a story declaring that anyone who has slept with more than one person is, and I am paraphrasing only slightly, a shameful sl-t. Just put that right out into the universe for everyone she knows to see. Friends. Family. Coworkers. The girl from summer camp she added in 2014. Everyone.
Now here is where things get spicy. Our storyteller happens to know for a fact that this friend has slept with multiple people. How do they know? Because the friend told them herself. Voluntarily. Enthusiastically, even. In fact, this same friend once teased our storyteller for being a virgin. Let that marinate for a second. She mocked someone for NOT sleeping around and then turned around and publicly shamed anyone who does.
So our storyteller did what any reasonable person with a functioning memory would do. They sent a private message. Not a public comment. Not a quote tweet for the masses. A private, one-on-one message simply expressing surprise at the post given what the friend had previously shared about her own experiences.
And the friend absolutely lost it.
First came the denial. You are remembering wrong. That never happened. Classic gaslight, fresh off the stove. Then came the guilt trip. You are throwing my past in my face. How dare you. The full theatrical production complete with emotional manipulation and a victim costume change.
Meanwhile, our storyteller is sitting there like wait. You publicly shamed an entire category of people that includes yourself, I gently and privately asked about it, and somehow I am the villain in this story?
OUR VERDICT
NTA. Not even a little bit. Not even remotely. This friend launched a public grenade of shame at everyone who has had multiple partners, which includes herself, and then crumbled when someone privately and politely held up a mirror. You do not get to rewrite your history, mock others for their choices in both directions by the way, and then cry foul when someone simply remembers the truth. Our storyteller did not blast her publicly. They did not screenshot the hypocrisy for the group chat. They sent a private message. That is restraint. That is grace. The friend is not just wrong for getting upset. She is wrong for posting that judgmental nonsense in the first place. You cannot shame people for living the exact life you lived and expect nobody to notice.
WHAT THE INTERNET SAID
Reddit was absolutely not having it. The overwhelming consensus was that the friend is a raging hypocrite who is cosplaying a completely new identity to impress a man she just met. Commenters pointed out the delicious irony of someone who once mocked a person for being a virgin now crusading for purity. Many noted that the private message was actually incredibly kind compared to what most people would have done. Several people predicted this relationship will crash and burn and the friend will conveniently abandon these beliefs the moment it does. The internet was united and ruthless.
If your friend publicly shames people for doing exactly what she has done, are you wrong for privately pointing out the contradiction? Drop your verdict below.
